Kate's Response to Bob's Post

This was my response to Bob’s post. I replied to the board, and not directly to Bob. Little did I know how much it would change my life.

“Very well put, and a gutsy post. I am a woman, over 50, in a long term marriage that is complicated and could be better. The state of my marriage is as much my fault as much as it is my husband’s. I have both cheated and been cheated upon in relationships. I am far from perfect. It is far too easy to be judgmental. Perhaps we all need to try harder.”

You can imagine my surprise when I received a note directly to my CL account.

“Hi,

I’m the author of the post. Thanks for your kind response. I appreciate it.

Best,

Bob”

I thought it was most gracious for him to respond. I also felt empathy and sympathy for his pain. I wrote back.

“Hi Bob,

Your post really touched me. It was beautifully written. You must be a professional writer. If you’ll pardon my saying so, your pain was evident. It took guts to post that, and I’m sure you took some flak for it. You said what many of us think, and what definitely needed to be said. Thank you.

All best,

Kate”

Who was this mysterious Bob who was in such pain? I didn’t think I’d ever hear from him again.